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New divorce self-help book places children first

By Megan Rose

A new self-help book on divorce has provided a unique insight into the effects the process has on children.

Written by leading law firm Mishcon de Reya and the children’s mental health charity Place2be, the book argues that divorce is one of the ‘biggest struggles children face’ and urges parents to consider what the process is like from a child’s perspective, as well as giving them practical advice and support.

It considers the long-term implications that divorce has on children, and calls for parents to understand ‘how best to support their child’ by learning what the realities of experiencing a separation really are.

With 100,000 divorces granted in the UK every year, Splitting up: A Child’s Guide to a Grown Up Problem features the views of real children who have gone through the experience of their parents divorcing.

The book is comprised of six chapters, each ending with a feature from Dr Stephen Adams-Langley, a senior clinical consultant for Place2Be. He offers further insight and advice on the issues raised in each chapter.

Mischon de Reya argues that, in some cases, the nature of divorce is not only damaging to children’s mental wellbeing, but to the public purse too. They call for parents to instead focus on their children throughout the separation, rather than lengthy and difficult court proceedings. It is hoped that by highlighting the voices of children, parents will be more conscious of their actions throughout and after their divorce or separation.

The president of Place2be, Dame Renita Befson DBE said: ‘We want to encourage adults to engage with their children to really understand how their actions affect them, both in the short and long term.’

Sandra Davis, head of the family department at Mishcon de Reya, added: ‘It is our societal responsibility to listen and seek to understand what children tell us about how we can serve their needs better in the event of a family breakdown.’

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