Six steps to model better tech habits for your child
Children learn far more from what they see than from what they are told. Showing healthy digital habits in your own daily life helps your child develop the same awareness and balance.
The aim isn’t to be perfect, but to be mindful about when and how you use tech.
1. Start with self-awareness
Notice your own screen habits before trying to change your child’s. Do you find yourself scrolling without thinking, or getting frustrated when things don’t work?
Becoming aware of your own patterns helps you understand what your child sees and imitates. Small adjustments, such as keeping your phone out of reach during meals or switching off notifications, could make a big difference.
2. Set family rules
Children generally respond better to boundaries that are fair and consistent. So if you create tech-free moments – during dinner, watching TV, bedtimes and mornings – make them a whole-family routine. Of course there will always be exceptions – but if you can follow some habits together, it will be easier to make them the norm.
3. Be open and honest
If you occasionally ask your child for help with tech, they will hopefully do the same with you. Maybe you’re not sure how to set a new password on your device, or can’t work out how to cancel a subscription? By asking, you are modelling to them very important help-seeking behaviours.
4. Use tech together
It doesn’t have to be everyone staring at separate screens. Sharing experiences can turn individual screen time into family time – whether it’s streaming something on Netflix together, trying the game they’re addicted to, or using a new TikTok recipe to make together
5. Show what balance looks like
Screens shouldn’t replace rest, relationships or time outdoors. Make sure your child sees you enjoying other parts of life without screens: reading, gardening, jogging, whatever you enjoy.
When children see that screens are only one part of a full life, they can learn to use screens in a more balanced way.
6. Keep reviewing your habits
Just like children, adults can fall into unhelpful digital habits without realising it. Every so often, take stock of how your screen use makes you feel.
If it leaves you distracted, tired or tense, it might be time for a change. Making small improvements together shows your child that good digital habits are built over time, not through strict rules or guilt.